Change is a Choice

When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves

– Viktor E Frankl

Change is a choice; a conscious and deliberate choice. We all have the capability to choose change.

There is a beautiful verse called the Serenity Prayer and it goes like this:

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom always to tell the difference”

Religious beliefs aside, the message is a powerful one and is the purpose of this post; to recognise that the capability for change lies in all of us. It is a matter of recognising what we can and cannot control and consequently choosing how we deal with those things in a way that suits what it is we are trying to achieve.

There is always a choice; we always have a choice, regardless of the circumstances, regardless of what we can and can’t control. It is always on us to choose how we show up, how we act and react, how much of ourselves we bring to the table and how much we hold back and the level of care and compassion we show others. We always have control over the choices we make for ourselves even if we don’t have control over our circumstances.

How often do we toil, devote precious energy, conscious awareness and other resources to worrying on and thinking about things that are really outside of our control? Things like a rule or regulation, the occurrence of an accident or some bad health news. How often do we create distracted moments, sleepless nights and heightened emotions over situations and potential outcomes we have no control to influence?

These are thoughts, finite mental and emotional resources dedicated to something we have no power to directly change. We have no control to stop the sun from setting or the tides from turning, to make others do what we want them to do, to change the past or predict the future.

When we have no control to alter the outcome, our choice then is to either accept it for what it is and change our perspective on it or continue to waste our time and energy.

Often our choices in business, and in life, are not black and white nor right and wrong. They are messy and they are many and sometimes there is often not even a “good” choice.

Awareness of where we are at, our circumstances, our thoughts, our emotions and recognising we are always in control of how we choose to look at things, enables us to make better decisions, take better actions and live with the choices we make.

If something is not working for us, we can choose to complain, be paralysed into inaction and change nothing or we can use the power that lies in our conscious thought and awareness of self to decide to view it in a different way and therefore act in a different way and create a change of outcome.

Guide To Thrive Resource: Two Mindsets by Carol S. Dweck

Carol Dweck is best known for her work on human mindset, believing that we each can be placed on a continuum according to where we think our ability comes from. At one end of this continuum is the “fixed mindset”. At the other the “growth mindset”. Check out this graphic to determine where you sit on the fixed/growth mindset continuum and determine what you might be able to do adjust your mindset, to take greater ownership and control of it in order to make better choices about how you think about things.

Download Thrive Guide – Two Mindsets